How to be grateful when we don't FEEL grateful

Thanksgiving is comming up and is a day where we are meant to focus on all the things we are grateful for and sometimes we end up showing up with a list of complaints rather than gratitudes. I know because have been on both sides of the coin. 

When I struggle to be grateful it's not that I don't have anything to be grateful for but it's more like I have not diagnosed my heart for discontent, fear, anxiety and all the things that could be clouding my heart, weigh me down and keeping me from seing my blessings...in those moments I make it a habit to

1- I label and name it, what ever it is that is driving me to be ungrateful and clowding my vision. That way instead of letting it consume me once I name it I can ask God for help to see his goodness woven into the tapestry of my life.

2- I grab a journal and make a list of all my answered prayers, all that He has given me and it helps me refocus.

3- I start thanking God in advance for the blessings he Will be giving me instead of worrying about tomorrow.

I am a big believer on writing our  gratitudes and even saying them out loud so we are aware of them and have them at hands reach when we are feeling low

Sometimes our hearts might not "feel" grateful but the more we pray and the less we focus on the temporary (our problems, business, etc) the more our hearts are filled with thanksgiving  even if we are in a hard season of life

Hoping and wishing you all a Happy Thanksgiving!

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