3D's of Thanksgiving

With #thanksgiving right around the corner I wanted to share with you this tip: focus on the 3 D of life... Delete, Delegate, or Delight... what is important is to enjoy your family, everyone being together and not be a stressed out basket case cranky and snappy (yup me yesterday... see I still struggle too) 

DELETE: dont feel guilty that you decided to bake just 1 pie not 3 types of pies or that you are simplifying the holidays and not doing what your parents did or inlaws do... its ok 

DELEGATE: hate to break it to you but you are not an island of your own or have to be super woman (yes I struggle with this too) you can ask people to bring sides, you can serve in paper plates, you can buy your mashed potatoes from a box, or buy the turkey already cooked, or splurge and hire someone to clean your house, have the kids wash the dishes... take some of the weight off your shoulders, its ok, your sanity is more important... 

DELIGHT: yup there are some instances where we can't get that help or delete that task, specially if it is something our loved ones look forward to every year or will create beautiful memories, so intead of complaining and getting cranky find a way to make it fun because well your still going to have to do it, so take a deep breath, light a candle, turn on pandora and dance/sing as you do it. lets face it a happy dance party turns anything into a fun time and you will keep your happy mood to enjoy with your family.
if its causing anxiety and making you loose your peace and robbing you of the real joy of this Holiday  use the 3 D approach, trust me it makes life so much easier and happier. Even if it mean you give up the Turkey and go for a non traditional Thanksgiving, what is trully important is focusing on enjoying time with those we love. You dont need anyones permission but if it makes you feel better I can give you mine and you can say that Miles Standish 10th great grand daughter gave you permission to eat pizza intead or a turkey or give up the pumpkin pie or do a picknick style paper plates red solo cup style dinner lol as long as you are focusing on what is trully important!

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