Evidence of a life well lived

With this I say good bye for the Holidays to social media but the blog will remain active
I want evidence of a Holiday well lived and when I am 90 I will be celebrating :
- not because I had a spotless house each day but the beautiful mess I made while living
-it wont be because I looked perfect & my hair was beautifully done but because I rolled down the windows, felt the cold air in my face & sang out loud to christmas music
-it wont be because I hustled and logged long hours of work but because I had countless hours laughing with friends & family
-it wont be because I crossed off all my to do lists or did more in a day than a normal person could do in a week but because I took time to look at a leaf, stare at the stars, sipped hot cocoa, held my child's hand & slowly walked wit her intead of rushing around.
-it won't be because o the degrees decorating my wall but because I followed my heart, passions, & the longing of my soul
-it wont be because I worried about every food out there & counted all my calories but because  I cooked delicious meals to share with my loved ones & trully savored each bite.
- it wont be because got all the latest gadgets & shopped my emotions away but be because i gave & focused on the simple things in life like love, kindness &  laughter
-it wont be because I used expensive efforts to prevent aging but because I embraced every single wrinkle as memories of a life trully lived with sorrows, worries, and joys
-it wont be because I kept over thinking, recounting my failures, and what I could/should have done differently but focused on the now intead & let go of regret & the past
-it wont be because I focused on all the ways my loved ones lacked and failed or didn'measure up to my expectations but because of how i focused on loving them no matter what, looked for the good, & actively seeked hugs, kisses & laughter
-it wont be because I am perfect but because I tried
- it wont be because I scrolled endlessly in social media or was constantly on my phone but because my hands were free and I was able to notice people, things, and moments that will create memories
What will your 90 year old self celebrate you doing?

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