Life's Heavy Dates

I call life's heavy dates those dates that sadly and tragically get sealed into our minds and souls,
you know what I am talking about,  
those dates where the world feels heavy,
those dates where it's hard to find the strength to get out of bed,
those dates where to function requires extra strength and effort,
those dates where it is hard to see the sun.

Even if it's been years from the actual date of the loss, 
for the person grieving it can hurt the same way as if it had happened yesterday.

And what can make the pain worse if the feeling of being alone, 
like others have moved on and left you behind 
or simply forgotten that this was the day where your world was turned upside down
and it will never be the same.

Let's make an effort and be aware of other people's heavy dates,
show your love with a call, a visit, flowers, baking something or just a text, 
in the end it doesn't matter how you show your love as long as you are there
because heavy dates are heavier and harder to bear when no one remembers.

We can not erase each other's pain or make those dates disappear, 
no matter how much we wish we could
but we can be there for those around us who are grieving 
and hold out our hand to help them regain balance and guide them to see the light,
we can remember with them...

And I pray that on heavy dates our pain never be intensified by loneliness.


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